MEN'S MENTAL HEALTH AND SOCIETAL EXPECTATIONS

 

Hey guys, it is Men’s Mental Health Month; what better time to discuss this very important topic? Please share with that man you know, as you may be saving a life! Now, let's get to it… Imagine Jide, a 35-year-old father of two. He is on his very crisp suit and tie every morning, ready to conquer the corporate world. To his colleagues, he's the epitome of success—a senior manager with a hefty paycheck. But beneath this polished exterior, Jide grapples with an invisible burden. The societal pressure to be the perfect provider, an unwavering rock for his family, and a fearless leader at work weighs heavily on his mental health.

Jide’s story is not unique. Many men face similar societal pressures that can have profound effects on their mental well-being. These pressures, often rooted in traditional masculine norms, can lead to a host of mental health issues, from anxiety and depression to substance abuse and even suicidal thoughts and suicide itself.

From a young age, boys are taught to be strong and stoic. “Big boys don’t cry” is a refrain we hear growing up. This ingrained belief that showing emotion is a sign of weakness follows boys into adulthood. For Jide, this meant never expressing his fears or frustrations. He believed that admitting to stress or seeking help would be seen as a failure, both personally and professionally.

Societal expectations manifest in various aspects of a man's life. Take career pressures, for example. Jide felt the relentless push to climb the corporate ladder. The long hours, constant performance reviews, and the fear of being replaced by a younger, more energetic colleague created a constant implication of stress. He often found himself lying awake at night, his mind racing with worries about meeting deadlines and maintaining his status at work.

At home, the pressures didn’t ease. He would feel the need to be the ideal husband and father. He wanted to be there for every inter-house sport and every PTA meeting while also providing financial security. The juggling act left him exhausted, yet he couldn’t shake the feeling that he wasn’t doing enough. He feared letting his family down, and this fear fueled his anxiety.

The cost of these societal pressures on men’s mental health can be severe. For Jide, the constant stress began to take a toll. He started experiencing frequent headaches and irritability. His once cheerful demeanour was replaced by a persistent sense of dread. He turned to alcohol to unwind after particularly tough days, a temporary escape that quickly became an addiction.

Jide's experience is mirrored by many men. According to studies, men are less likely to seek help for mental health issues due to the stigma attached. The societal belief that men should be self-reliant and resilient often prevents them from admitting they need support. This reluctance can lead to untreated mental health conditions, with men being more likely to engage in risky behaviours or suffer in silence until a crisis point is reached.

Addressing these issues requires a shift in societal attitudes towards masculinity and mental health. Encouraging men to express their emotions and seek help is crucial. Vulnerability should be seen not as a weakness but as a necessary step towards healing.

Support systems play a vital role in this process. A turning point can arise when men confide in close friends about their struggles, especially when those friends are non-judgemental; instead, they actively listen and maybe even share their own experiences with stress and anxiety. These types of conversations can be a revelation! This would make the man realize they are not alone and that seeking help is not a sign of failure but a step towards reclaiming their life.

Professional help, such as therapy, can provide men with the tools to manage their mental health effectively. Support groups and peer networks also offer a sense of community and understanding. Men like Jide benefit from knowing they have a safe space to share their experiences without fear of judgment.

In addition to seeking support, men can take proactive steps to maintain their mental health. Regular physical activity, a balanced diet, and sufficient sleep can significantly impact overall well-being. Mindfulness practices, such as meditation or yoga, can help manage stress and promote emotional balance.

Engaging in hobbies and maintaining social connections are also essential. For Jide, picking up his old guitar and joining a local band became a source of joy and relaxation. It reminded him of the importance of taking time for himself amidst his many responsibilities. You may not have a guitar, but having to do something you love to do, even in the midst of that many burdens, can help relieve that stress.

The societal pressures men face are real and can have serious consequences for their mental health. By fostering a culture that values openness, vulnerability, and support, we can help men like Jide navigate these challenges. Encouraging men to prioritize their mental health, seek help when needed, and break free from the constraints of traditional masculine norms is crucial. Together, we can create a more supportive and compassionate society for all.

Jide’s journey to better mental health wasn’t easy, but it was worth it. By acknowledging his struggles and seeking support, he found a path to a more balanced and fulfilling life. His story serves as a reminder that no one should have to face these pressures alone. If Jide can do it, You can!