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Let's get right to it... Your brain has called a meeting at 2 a.m. that you didn't plan. You're going over a discussion you had earlier, coming up with possible future situations, and trying to fix problems that haven't even happened yet. This is the silent, tiring cycle of overthinking that many busy minds are all too familiar with. The first step to stopping overthinking is to figure out what's really going on in your head. A lot of the time, overthinking looks like problem-solving, but they are not the same thing. When you solve a problem, you are engaged, attentive, and make choices or take action. It has a defined start, middle, and end. On the other hand, overthinking is repetitive and doesn't help. You go around in circles with the same thoughts, and you frequently feel more trapped than when you started. It's probably ruminating if your thoughts aren't moving to a specific next move. When looking for true aid with rumination, it's important t...

Hello, it's been a year... This is going to be another interesting one, as always, so let's begin. In today’s world, it's common to feel overwhelmed by the constant demands of work, family, and social obligations. Many people struggle to say "no" or set limits, which often leads to feelings of guilt or anxiety. Yet, creating healthy boundaries is an important way to maintain emotional well-being and personal growth. As a psychologist, I usually tell people that boundaries are not only necessary but are also an act of self-care and self-respect. Let us even talk about what boundaries really are. Boundaries act as invisible lines that protect your emotional and mental space from being compromised by others. Therefore, without clear boundaries, it's easy for one to fall into patterns of overcommitting, emotional exhaustion, and even burnout. There is a need to establish boundaries so as to allow one to prioritize their own needs and create a balanced life where o...

Hello, I would be sharing with you a topic I find common among us from this part of the world. Toxic Positivity, which I call “Over Positive”. Toxic positivity is the belief that no matter how bad a situation is, people should always stay positive. So, w hile positive thinking is important, forcing it all the time can be harmful. It can make people feel like their real emotions don’t matter.   When someone is sad, anxious, or frustrated, they need support, not just happy words like "Just stay positive!" Ignoring real feelings can make a person feel unheard and alone. Imagine telling a friend about a tough day at work, and instead of listening, they say, "At least you have a job!" While the intention might be good, this response dismisses real struggles and can make the person feel even worse. Facing emotions helps people learn and grow. If we always push sadness away, we never understand how to cope with it. Negative feelings are a natural part of life, and it’s oka...

Hi, How do you feel when you render help to someone and you see a broad smile that extends to both sides of the cheeks? For me, I feel a sense of fulfilment and excitement, it gives me some form of high that makes me seek more healthy ways of rendering assistance to people and animals. Kindly indulge me in the comment section with how it makes you feel. A very interesting and often ignored topic is what we will be discussing today, one that I love so much! It is all about giving back as a lifestyle, Breathe! Lol, it is not all about giving out money; we are talking about much more: your time, skills, knowledge, in fact, all of you. Yeah, you read right, giving back has to be an intentional act; it may involve giving all of you, but of course, with boundaries to avoid being overwhelmed with the burden of care and missing out on all other aspects of life. Giving Back seems imperative because, many times, people do not seem to make an active effort to see the betterment of themselves, fam...

  Hey guys, it is Men’s Mental Health Month; what better time to discuss this very important topic? Please share with that man you know, as you may be saving a life! Now, let's get to it… Imagine Jide, a 35-year-old father of two. He is on his very crisp suit and tie every morning, ready to conquer the corporate world. To his colleagues, he's the epitome of success—a senior manager with a hefty paycheck. But beneath this polished exterior, Jide grapples with an invisible burden. The societal pressure to be the perfect provider, an unwavering rock for his family, and a fearless leader at work weighs heavily on his mental health. Jide’s story is not unique. Many men face similar societal pressures that can have profound effects on their mental well-being. These pressures, often rooted in traditional masculine norms, can lead to a host of mental health issues, from anxiety and depression to substance abuse and even suicidal thoughts and suicide itself. From a young age, boys are ...

I recently came upon a video of a very wise elderly man discussing happiness. While I appreciated everything he had to say, I couldn't help but think, "If we are being realistic, material things are also a significant source of happiness, only that the extent people go towards acquiring them can make this happiness even more short-lived." In the search for happiness, we frequently find ourselves navigating a maze of options and influences that shape our perceptions of what truly brings fulfilment. At the centre of this journey is a fundamental question: does happiness come from extrinsic values, like accumulating expensive possessions and wealth, or does it stem from only intrinsic values, like helping and caring for others? Let's explore this fascinating topic and investigate the complicated interaction of intrinsic and external values in our pursuit of pleasure. In today's consumer-driven world, believing that material goods and outward successes may buy happine...

Hey there, fellow wanderers of the internet!  Lol…   Now , let's dive into something that's all too familiar for many of us: feeling left out or ostracized. Yep, that uncomfortable, sometimes downright painful feeling of not quite fitting in, like you're on the outside looking in while everyone else is having a grand old time. Now, before we get started, let me just say: if you've ever felt this way, you're not alone. Seriously, not at all .  Although research has shown that a certain personality trait (negative emotionality) may predispose one to feeling ostracized.   However, f eeling left out is something that affects just about everyone at some point in their lives, whether they admit it or not. It's like one of those universal human experiences, right up there with hitt ing your toe or getting caught in the rain without an umbrella. But what exactly does it mean to feel left out? Well, it's different for everyone, but it usually involves feeling disconn...

As we embark on our path to self-love, mastering the skill of forgiving yourself  is a crucial and life-altering step. To go on this path, one must be brave, kind, and ready to release the past. A lack of self-love and subsequent stagnation in personal development and fulfilment directly result from holding onto negative emotions like shame, remorse, and regret over our perceived or actual flaws. But we may unlock the door to deep healing and self-acceptance when we forgive. Practising self-forgiveness does not include downplaying or ignoring the wrong  you have do ne . Rather, it's a deliberate decision to let go of the emotional weight of the past and proceed with empathy and comprehension. It means accepting ourselves as we are: fallible, imperfect, and capable of change. You are only human! Realising that blunders are a part of life and a chance to learn and improve is what it is to be human. It is very important to be kind to yourself, this is because it is important to t...

The features and benefits of Wiki Cat Coin is quite enormous. In this tweet, I would highlight a couple of them: One of the features of Wiki Cat coin is the fact that it is decentralized, which means any government or central authority does not control it but rather runs on a distributed ledger technology. Also, the security is top-notch, making it highly resistant to fraud and hacking. There is also the issue of anonymity. Wiki Cat coin offers that. It provides a high degree of privacy and pseudonymity to its users. And finally, it is a global coin with accessibility to anyone with an internet connection, and transactions can be conducted with anyone, anywhere in the world. Some of the benefits of the Wiki Cat coin is that transactions with the Wiki Cat is fast and faster and cheaper compared to other methods of banking.  As I mentioned earlier, Wiki Cat coin is readily accessible by anyone with an internet connection and a device, making it possible for people who do not have acc...

While facing potentially stressful situations, such as public speaking or a first date, have you ever had "butterflies" in your stomach? You probably have, since it's normal and expected to feel nervous before some social events. Also, while we all worry about what other people think of us from time to time, it's not common for people to feel nervous before everyday social interactions to the point where they feel anxious or avoid them altogether. But if one has social anxiety, even simple interactions can be hard. We can worry so much about what other people will think or how we might mess up that we can't do our best work. People think that social anxiety disorder is caused by a complex mix of biological and environmental factors, just like most other mental health problems. One thing is that people think anxiety disorders tend to run in families. If someone in your family has anxiety, you may be more likely to get it yourself. People also think that social anxi...

Grief is a normal human reaction to loss. When something or someone important to an individual is taken away, one experiences emotional pain. Sometimes the sting of grief seems insurmountable. The person may feel a wide range of negative and unexpected feelings, from shock and fury to disbelief, remorse, and great grief. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance are the five phases of grieving identified by one theorist. Of course, not everyone who experiences loss goes through each of these stages, and that is normal. A person's physical health can be negatively impacted by the anguish of loss, making it hard to sleep, eat, or think clearly. These are all natural responses to grieving and will be amplified if the loss is very profound. One of life's greatest difficulties is getting over the loss of a loved one or an important possession. Even seemingly little losses may trigger grief. It is normal to feel sad following major life changes like leaving home, finishin...

If you have found yourself in a difficult problem at work, preparing to take a test/exam, first day at school, or before making an important decision, you must have experienced uneasiness, fear, or dread. This may have even caused you to sweat profusely, feel restless and tense, and have a rapid heartbeat. This is just a normal reaction to stress. Another word for it is anxiety, and this is good anxiety… yes you heard me… good anxiety! This anxiety can help you to cope in the face of distress, it may even give you a boost of energy or help you focus. The body experiences anxiety when it goes into a fight or flight type of high alert. However, for people who are with anxiety disorders, this feeling of fear is not temporary and can be really overwhelming and unpleasant.  This happens when the feelings appear to be all-consuming and interfere with daily living. There are many ways you can know if you are crossing the borderline from just anxious feeling to pathological anxiety. One of...